In life, failure often precedes success. You’ll be hard-pressed to find anyone successful who hasn’t experienced failure before they found success.
Instead, you’ll hear and read countless stories of people who persevered and continued working for their dreams even though they’ve failed so many times.
Failing is the norm, not the exception.
If you find yourself crawling back into the safety of your comfort zone every time you make a mistake, and abandoning your plans, then you need to change your attitude.
Truth be told, you will never find success if you treat failure like your worst enemy.
There are many ways to overcome failure.
In this short report, you’re going to be learning five different ways you can overcome failure and finally succeed in life.
1. Accept the failure and learn from your mistakes
Learning to embrace and accept your failure is the first step you need to take. Without coming to terms with your failure, you’re never going to understand the reasons why you failed. Therefore, you’re never going to learn from your mistakes.
Embracing failure may sound difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. You just have to keep in mind that failure is but a necessary step towards success.
When you fail to accept your mistakes, then you’ll find it difficult to move forward. You’ll get stuck in your comfort zone, and it could be years before you decide to do anything! That’s a lot of time wasted.
The earlier you come to terms with your failure, the earlier you’ll learn your lessons and the quicker you’ll find the right path to achieve your dreams.
Also, just because you failed doesn’t mean you’re a failure. If you think of yourself that way, I’m telling you right now that you’re wrong. You can only call yourself a failure if you don’t get back up and fight for your dreams.
Failure is not forever unless you choose to make it last forever. If you do, then you’ll be a certified loser for the rest of your life, to put it bluntly.
Even successful athletes fail from time to time. For instance, this year they could be at the bottom of their sports league’s ranking. The next year they could be winning the crown or belt or whatever the champion’s prize is! If they’ve given up on those seasons they were the league’s laughingstock, they wouldn’t have ended up as champions.
People are natural dreamers. We dream of a better life for ourselves and our families. And we have to work hard to achieve those dreams.
But, success and prosperity are not going to be handed to you on a silver platter, you have to work hard for it.
Just because you failed on your first or second attempt at providing a better life for yourself and your family doesn’t mean you should give up.
Instead, you should use your failure as motivation. Use it to give yourself a healthy dose of reality. Accept failure for what it is, learn from it, and continue on with your journey.
2. Treat failure as the cost of learning
Our parents paid for our education. We learned many things in school, but sometimes textbook education cannot substitute for real-life education.
When you fail – whether in school or in life – that’s real-life education right there. You’re learning something from your own experience. It wasn’t taught to you from a book, you learned your lessons the hard way.
The thing with learning through books is that you rarely retain the information you read about. You probably only memorize the most important points for your exams. The moment the school year’s over, you’ll most probably already have forgotten what you’ve learned that year.
Learning from failure is another thing. When you give your all to your goals or to your dreams, and you fail, it’s going to be painful. Emotionally, mentally, physically, and maybe even financially painful.
But, the good thing is that the lessons you’ve learned from failing will get drilled into your heart and your mind. The bigger the failure, the more impact it has on you, and the more you learn out of it.
It’s how you deal with that lesson that decides your future. If you decide to put those lessons gleaned from your mistakes to good use, then you could be making better plans towards your goals. If you don’t use what you’ve learned, then chances are, you’re just going to fail all over again.
Failing will teach you a lot about yourself and about your character. Think of failure as your teacher and you as the student.
When you’ve got a teacher in front of you, you try your best to pay attention unless you want to come across as a good-for-nothing class rebel who’s not going to amount to anything in life. As a good student, you pay attention to your teacher, you take down notes and try to ask relevant questions.
When you think of failure like that, you’ll be learning a lot more than your rebel-wannabe classmate, and your probability of success will be much higher.
3. Work on the necessary skills needed to finally succeed
One reason why people fail is that they don’t have the skills necessary to succeed. Whether it’s a technical skill or some other life skill you need to work on, you need to do so right away. Otherwise, it’s going to put a damper on your road to success.
You’ll know all about the skills you need to upgrade when you analyze your past failures. This is why learning to accept and make peace with failure is so important. It helps you assess and figure out the most important skills you’re lacking that you should be working on.
For instance, if you’re trying to get your startup off the ground and you’re looking for investors to help fund your startup, then you need certain skills.
You can’t just depend on your passion for your project, you need to have solid business skills too. You need to have the ability to communicate with your team, and you need to learn how to delegate jobs to the right people.
You also need to have serious sales skills to sell to potential investors, or if you don’t have that, then you need the skills to persuade and hire someone who does.
Since it’s your startup, you’re going to need leadership skills because people will be looking up to you, they’ll be following your lead.
There are many more skills you need before you can call your startup a success.
Another example would be if you are an Internet marketer, then you may need some technical skills. You need to know how to build a website, how to write enticing web copy, how to create high converting emails and landing pages, and so on.
If you don’t have the time to learn all those skills, then how about hiring the right people who can help you out.
When you’ve got a team, you need communications skills so they can easily understand what you want them to do. You also need to know how to manage your cash flow now that you’re paying people’s salaries.
The point is that when you do fail, you’ve got to figure out what’s lacking, and you need to do what must be done – mastering the required skills to reach your goals and achieve success at last.
4. Step out of your comfort zone and take risks
We’ve all got our comfort zones. But the truth is, many people hate leaving it. In fact, they would downright avoid it, if they can.
However, successful people can leave their comfort zones in a heartbeat. They don’t need to think twice. When it’s time to take risks, they’ll jump outside their comfort zones, and do what needs to be done.
The people who want to stay in their comfort zones forever are afraid of taking risks. They are afraid of failing, and they would rather live mediocre lives than risk anything.
You’re probably asking if these people have dreams. Of course, they do. But since they’re timid, and they’re scared of stepping outside their comfort zone, then their dreams often die with them.
Taking risks doesn’t have to mean jumping off a cliff. Risks come in all sizes. In banking products and financial investments, they categorize people according to their risk tolerance.
If you’re risk-averse, then they would suggest you invest in a product that’s low risk and low reward. But if you belong to the opposite end of the risk spectrum, that is, you’ve got an aggressive risk tolerance, then your bank would suggest you invest in a high-risk and high-reward product.
The same kind of risk-reward system applies to your dreams too. The bigger and the more ambitious your goals, the bigger the risks you’re facing. If you fail, you could end up in huge debt, or you could lose everything you own. But if you win, you win big-time!
On the flip side, if you only want to take small risks, then you’ll also lose a small amount, but you also won’t gain much.
To help overcome failure, it would be best if you take risk one step at a time. Get used to failing, so to speak.
Over time, when you’ve built up the knowledge, strength and mental stamina needed to overcome huge risks and catastrophic failures, then, by all means, take the plunge. It can go either way – you’ll succeed spectacularly, or you’ll fail.
When you fail, you don’t have to be too worried. After all, you’ll be learning a lot from the experience, and you can use that newfound knowledge to guide you until you finally succeed!
5. Don’t listen to naysayers and just believe in yourself
You’ll never run out of people trying to discourage you from chasing your dreams. Many people have this ‘crab mentality’ where they don’t want other people to have what they can’t.
So, they try their best to pull people down with them. If you’ve got people like this in your family, in your circle of friends, even in your workplace, don’t hang out with them. Avoid them if you can. Their negativity and their pessimism will rub off on you, and they will rob you of your dreams if you give them a chance!
Sometimes, you’ll have an inner voice telling you to stop going after your dreams. It’s much harder to not listen to a voice in your head than it is with the people around you. You don’t want to look crazy in front of people, so do your best to ignore that inner voice.
Actually, one of the best ways you can shut that negative inner voice for good is by believing in yourself. It’s one of the best remedies for removing doubt.
Self-belief will help you overcome failure like no other. When you believe in yourself, you’ll find different methods of motivating and inspiring yourself.
You don’t even need to look towards others for inspiration. You just have to look deep inside you, and you’ll find the answers you need.
When you start believing in yourself, all the naysayers around you will see the change. You’ll become more confident, you’ll be surer of your plans. Your belief will manifest itself in your physical behavior, and that won’t go unnoticed by your peers.
When you believe in yourself, other people will start believing in you too. Who knows, you might even influence them to try stepping out of their comfort zones and chase after their own dreams!